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This Book of Memories memorial website is designed to be a permanent tribute paying tribute to the life and memory of Toby Stahl. It allows family and friends a place to re-visit, interact with each other, share and enhance this tribute for future generations. We are both pleased and proud to provide the Book of Memories to the families of our community.

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Life Story for Toby Roberta Stahl

Toby Roberta was born in Brooklyn in 1938 to the late Jonas and Essie Schleifer, who were tireless activists that instilled in her their love of community and respect for humanity. The family was completed when her younger brother Sam arrived, and in 1948 they packed up their lives and moved to Mesa, Arizona.

A graduate of Mesa High School, Toby got her bachelor’s degree from Arizona State University and master’s degree from the University of Connecticut, both in chemistry. Toby was working in a chemistry lab for New York University when she met and married her late husband of over 50 years, Hal. They had two children while living in New York, Barry and Fran, and added Carrie to the family after moving to Connecticut.

While in Connecticut, Toby was active in local politics focusing primarily on education issues. She was also one of the founders and the second President of Temple B’nai Chaim in Ridgefield.

The family moved back “home” to Arizona in 1983 and Toby worked as a computer programmer at Thompson Industries/WinCup in Phoenix/Tolleson until she retired in the year 2000.

Toby was always involved in her children’s activities and interests, and was considered “Everybody’s Mom” by their friends. She was the one they would go to when they were in trouble and the Stahl house was known to be a safe space for people in need of assistance or support. She volunteered as a site steward protecting Arizona’s natural history and at Pueblo Grande Museum in Phoenix, including three years as the Auxiliary President from 1999-2002.

Her family expanded with the addition of her son-in-law, Lewis Dickson and daughter-in-law, Patricia Angelucci. While volunteering she still found time to dote on her four grandsons, Jonas, Kai, Rei and Ari, and assist them in becoming kind, generous, and politically active young men.

An avid baseball fan, she was an original Arizona Diamondbacks season ticket holder and was well-known at D’Backs games as well as at Arizona State Sun Devil baseball games.

Toby’s retirement years were dedicated to fighting for the issues that were dearest to her: education, healthcare, protecting families and human rights. She was a proud volunteer for the Democratic party as a Precinct Committeeman and member of the Arizona State Democratic Committee. Toby wore many hats including several years as President of Democracy for America-Maricopa County (DFA-MC). She could regularly be found at the capitol building or the offices of legislators protesting, registering voters, and encouraging people to “do more than vote”.

A friend referred to her as “a true warrior for equality and justice”. Toby’s ideal was to be a woman of valor, living by the credo “It is not your responsibility to change the world, but it is your responsibility to never stop trying.”

Toby requested that in lieu of flowers, donations be made to Democracy for America - Maricopa County (, Givecamp of Arizona ( or HIAS ( In her memory, please vote, then “Do More Than Vote!”

Her memorial website is located at

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